tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8107076210239478804.post9131885066448844833..comments2023-08-27T19:19:19.705+10:00Comments on Letters from a Romantic: Love. Sex. Body.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15813779501080411921noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8107076210239478804.post-84798567765336373022010-10-26T14:11:42.187+11:002010-10-26T14:11:42.187+11:00@Barry: Thank you, your comments have been very in...@Barry: Thank you, your comments have been very insightful. =)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15813779501080411921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8107076210239478804.post-48369274226114748142010-10-25T04:53:23.836+11:002010-10-25T04:53:23.836+11:00BODY
The media is poisonous when it comes to infl...BODY<br /><br />The media is poisonous when it comes to influencing how we feel about ourselves. You make a good point about health being emphasized less than looking good. I think what women don't realize is that most men aren't as demanding of a certain body type as the media would have them believe. I mean really, when we look around at couples walking down the street we see many overweight people with partners. Having extra pounds does not make you unlovable or unattractive. Honestly I think deep down most people know this but it's a constant battle when being told otherwise every day.<br /><br />Admittedly I'm wildly attracted to certain body types, and yes most of us men enjoy looking at women with swimsuit-model figures. But it's an almost impossible standard to attain. I've come to find over the years, and understand today more than ever, that beauty is more on the inside than what people see on the outside. To me a woman who loves herself and is confident showing that to others is the sexiest thing around, no matter what her body type. All women are beautiful in some way.Barryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04641761671561288846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8107076210239478804.post-53719668696671439792010-10-25T04:52:55.379+11:002010-10-25T04:52:55.379+11:00SEX
In some ways I'm in agreement with you he...SEX<br /><br />In some ways I'm in agreement with you here, in some ways it's not so much that I disagree as my views towards sex are a bit more...indulgent. I'll explain.<br /><br />First, I'm extremely happy to read your views on virginity. If I can say so I'm rather proud of you for feeling this way. I've had many conversations about sex with girls and women over the past year, I'm always interested to hear different views through their eyes. Recently I spoke with a woman in her late twenties who is still a virgin and looks at it as something to be ashamed of, a big secret she keeps as if there's something wrong with her. Had she wanted to lose it years ago she could have, but she wants to wait until the right person comes along and she's in a steady relationship. How can that be wrong? I have another friend in her early twenties who has held onto her virginity despite her boyfriend wanting to sleep with her. She's waiting until the time is right for HER. I love her for this.<br /><br />To me the way they feel is very admirable. It saddens me that so many girls look at virginity as something to get rid of as soon as they can. You only have one first time, I think it should be special for everyone female or male. In case you're curious I didn't lose my virginity until I was 23, and I look back on that night fondly. It was great.<br /><br />I've never believed sex is something that should be reserved for marriage, although I respect the right for others to feel this way. I even have no issue with people having casual sex, PROVIDED they're mature enough to know what their expectations are and what they're getting into. So many people are having sex too early. Far too many girls have had their hearts broken by boys or men leading them on for the sole purpose of sleeping with them as just another conquest.Barryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04641761671561288846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8107076210239478804.post-1959546582235913172010-10-25T04:51:49.600+11:002010-10-25T04:51:49.600+11:00My response was too long to send at once, so I'...My response was too long to send at once, so I'll break it down into three separate comments...<br /><br /><br />LOVE<br /><br />I'm a very emotional person, most of my poetry and short stories are based on romantic themes and relationships. Yet as much as I profess to be a romantic I'm part realist as well. I tend not to believe in love at first sight, although I'm sure there are couples whose experience would show me otherwise. I don't believe we all have one soulmate. It's hard to believe that in a world of six billion plus people there's just ONE person we're meant to be with. Funny how that "soulmate" just happens in almost all cases to be conveniently found geographically close to us. <br /><br />Still, I think love is the most important emotion we can possess and is as vital to our well-being as air. I think, especially as you've stated with young adults drifting from partner to partner, people are often not looking so much for love than for what it brings: acceptance. Finding someone who strongly feels something towards us is a tremendous form of validation. It tells us we're worth knowing and have something special inside us. It's an indescribable feeling, probably the most amazing thing in the world to be loved by another. I love love.Barryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04641761671561288846noreply@blogger.com