Relationships

Relationships are a lot of hard work. Having love itself, is not enough to maintain a happy healthy relationship. There are many factors that come into play, from: distance to culture to trust to willingness to open up to communication to dedication to loyalty to patience to just plain chemistry. I'm no expert at this but I've learnt a lot over the years from my own experiences and from the people around me.

No relationship is simple. Though I wish that they were. It involves a lot of dedication. You have to want to make things work. If you want it, then you and your partner can talk things out, stay by each other and find a solution. It's never easy.You have to have a lot of patience, to wait out through the rough patches. Sometimes, there are more hard times than good and that can be disheartening. I know that it is disheartening. You have to ask yourself, "Is all this worth it?" Is that person worth all your time and effort? Does it even matter at all if they're not?

Someone once told me that there is a difference between what you want and what you can realistically have. It's all about finding a balance. Yin and yang. Light and dark. Day and night. There has to be a compromise. You have to be willing to give a little to receive a little. You can't expect someone to give their all and for you to do nothing at all. That is not fair. But sometimes, life is not fair. Sometimes, what you put in doesn't come back equally. You have to know when enough is enough. You have to know when to let go. It's not the same as giving up. Giving up is leaving before anything serious happens. Letting go is when you know that after everything, things still just won't work out and that both of you will be happier, as friends. Or if they're a d*ck, as enemies.

Love, it doesn't end after a relationship does. All your memories, bad and good, keeps that person in your heart. And as corny as it sounds, I believe that it's true. Once someone becomes significant to you, they will always continue to affect you in some way. Because, some time ago, you gave them a piece of your heart and you'll never get it back.