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Thursday, April 1, 2010

Understanding The Opposite Gender

For most of today, I was a boy. I talked and walked and wore clothes like a boy. To be exact, I attempted to. It was all because of my friends Nick and Greg (Lol there. I mentioned you guys). So basically it was sort of like a deal. The deal was: If I could last the whole day being a boy, I'll get lollies at the end.
I met my other friends Richard and Phil (Happy? I mentioned you guys too.lol.) for my history class and throughout the day I got people staring at me thinking: Why is she dressed like a guy? Any who, my friend Greg got me thinking. . .

Guys, they are so different to girls. I wonder what goes through a guy's head during the day? I bet guys think the same. So thats why, I spent 30mins thinking of a survey containing questions that both genders want to ask each other. I have already posted the survey on my FaceBook and the best replies will later be posted up. Any other meaningful answers from my lovesick fools will be added to the list. I am also planning to compare the most common answers from both genders up later. The results shall be interesting.
So here is the survey along with my answers.

a.What do you search for in a partner?
Someone who is honest enough to tell me when he is lying and why.

b.Is it appearance that initially attract you to a person?
Truthfully yes, appearance does initially attract me to a person but if he has a bad personality,
I am not going to stick around to find out anything else.

c.How often or have you ever thought of sex?
I would be lying if I say I've never even once thought about sex. I have thought about once or twice but not seriosuly enough to actually consider it.

d. Do you believe in true love?
Obviously yes. For me love is really important so base many aspects of life around the idea of true love.
If there is no true love, what else is out there?

e. How many relationships have you been in?
  One so far. Yet to find a long stable relationship. Still searching.

f.What is your thought on commitment?
   Commitment is essential for a long happy relationship. Though sometimes, I understand people fear commitment. Soemtimes, people are not ready then they have to ask themselves: Why?
g. How easy is it for you to say the words "I love you?"
 Not easy at all. I absolutely have to believe he is the one to say those words. Though sometimes, we lie to ourselves about who we actually love. People who say "I love you" after dating a couple of days, I don't understand where the love comes from.
h.How long was your longest relationship so far?
Almost 5 months.
i.What would you consider to be the best anniversary present?
I am hindered by my own question. . . Truthfully, I really want sentimental things. Material goods are nice and all but they hold no meaning what so ever. Just being able to stay beside the one you love is good enough.

j. What made you fall in love with your partner or what would make you fall for a person?
Someone who is always there. Someone who understands me more than anyone else ever would.

k. If your love suddenly becomes disable would you still treat them the same?
If I don't treat them the same or fall out of love, could I seriosuly say that I was in love with them?
I don't believe so.
l. If your beloved changes personality, would you still love him/her
With this it depends on what type of change: Good or bad and how much change? If that person suddenly turns a 180, is he really the same person I fell in love with? Maybe, he isn't the one.
m. Would you love someone completely even with his/her flaws or try to change him/her?
With this, I sincerely believe that if you love someone you should accept him whole heartedly and completely. If not, what do you seriously love about them? His flaws are what makes him, him. If you try to change someone then maybe, you actually don't love them. It also depends on what the flaw is e.g. smoking.
n. If the most important person hurt you, would you still love him/her
If my most important person hurt me, would I still love him? Truthfully and stupidly yes. But also, there are limits to how much pain a person can handle. If he can't see that he is hurting you, than he probably doesn't deserve you. Then again, its not easy to fall out of love with someone unless you never really loved them to begin with.
o. Why do people date someone who is bad for them?
Ummm with this, I think either stupidity or excitment.
p. What is your opinion on cheating/love affairs?
  That is not love. If you don't love someone, tell them and don't date/sleep with someone else. Its not fair on your partner.
q.Have you ever been in a one-sided love? How did you get over it?
 Yes and still am but gradually moving on because when I love someone, it would be really nice if he loves me back. I think, the only thing that helps is time because dating other people would only result in more pain.
r. Were you ever in love with more than one person at the same time? Is that considered to be true love? How did you find the right answer?
To be exact, I wasn't in love with two people at the same time but more of the fact that I didn't realise that I loved someone else from the start. The right answer, is the person you love more or loved from the beginning.
s.Define: Love
Love is wanting to be with someone for Eternity but when it comes to that person's happiness, theirs is more important than yours because if they're happy, then you're happy.

Ok, since I answered truthfully, I expect you to asnwer truthfully as well. Patiently waiting for your replies ^^

5 comments:

ooohjodi said...

a.What do you search for in a partner?
I want a guy that can make me love him... because that doesn't happen.

b.Is it appearance that initially attract you to a person?
oh yeah, unattractive guys will never get my attention... no matter how great they are.

c.How often or have you ever thought of sex?
I think about sex a good amount. I love sex.

d. Do you believe in true love?
I believe in timing. Love only gets the chance to work itself out if its the right time. You can love so many people, but the ones that you really love got you at the right time.

e. How many relationships have you been in?
nothing serious. very casual.

f.What is your thought on commitment?
its harder than it looks.

g. How easy is it for you to say the words "I love you?"
I don't think I have ever said that and actually meant it. Its not a common phrase, but even when it is said... its never true.

h.How long was your longest relationship so far?
2 weeks. I have commitment issues.

i.What would you consider to be the best anniversary present?
I really don't like getting gifts. Just spending time with someone should be enough.

j. What made you fall in love with your partner or what would make you fall for a person?
A guy that will let me in to see who he really is.

k. If your love suddenly becomes disable would you still treat them the same?
I really want to say yes... but when things come down to it, something like that would put such strain on a relationship.

l. If your beloved changes personality, would you still love him/her?
If i was in love with someone, i wouldnt want them to change too much and be too different from the person that i fell in love with.

m. Would you love someone completely even with his/her flaws or try to change him/her?
Flaws are a part of life. Some flaws are beautiful.

n. If the most important person hurt you, would you still love him/her?
yes... but it would take me time to get back to the same level of a relationship.

o. Why do people date someone who is bad for them?
Its fun to do what you aren't supposed to do.

p. What is your opinion on cheating/love affairs?
It's not cheating if nobody knows about it. Sure, it's immoral... but if no one else knows, then no one else gets hurt.

q.Have you ever been in a one-sided love? How did you get over it?
Yes, well sort of. He was in love with me, i wasn't in love with him. not a fun situation.

r. Were you ever in love with more than one person at the same time? Is that considered to be true love? How did you find the right answer?
I have never truly been in love. I like the idea of love, but realistically... i don't think its happening for me.

s.Define: Love
Love is a form of insanity.

Lovesick Fool said...

@ooohjodi: I really really like your answers. They're so different to my other responses. I really love how truthful you are. Thank you, much appreciated ^^ !!!

ooohjodi said...

no problem. i can't wait to see what else you get.
:]

Nova said...

It took me a few days but I managed to get them answered :)

http://novarayne.blogspot.com/2010/04/love-questions.html

Lovesick Fool said...

@Nova: Thank you^^

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