Yesterday, I was talking with a friend about everything and anything concerning matters of boys and love (Yes, I'm lame I have nothing better to do with my time) and anyway she asked me, "What's the difference between a guy best friend and a boyfriend?"
Thinking over it seriously, there isn't much of a difference at all.
With both of them, you can have outings like the cinema, picnics and whatever else that floats your boat. Both are protective of you and care for you. You feel completely comfortable with them and trust them with secrets. You can share warmth under a blanket on cold nights while watching movie marathons and be driven around like a princess.
The only difference I can think of is physical intimacy. Because, you don't go around kissing your best friend, well you're not supposed to anyway.
And you love them.
But I suppose the type of Love would be different because as mentioned above, the only real difference is physical intimacy. But still, if something happens to them, you would still feel incredibly worried.
What do you guys think?
Is there a difference between a guy best friend and a boy friend?
3 comments:
i know i've always felt more comfortable around close male friends of mine than i did around boyfriends. for me, the added terminology brought with it a sense of pressure. if someone was my boyfriend, that meant i was a girlfriend, and i didn't really know how to be a girlfriend (not sure if i would know how, even today).
also, along the same lines, there's the knowledge that if someone stops being "boyfriend" he might no longer be in your life at all, whereas friends have that sweet and comfortable forever feeling.
@Vencora: I agree, friends have that forever feeling that some relationships don't have. After they're no longer you're boyfriend, sometimes it becomes awkward so they tend to leave your life.
I talk about relationships any chance I get so I'll tell you how I see it from a male perspective, where female friendship is concerned.
From either side, friendships with the opposite sex can be precarious at best. I have a few female friends in "real life" but dozens of female blogging friends, some with whom I share very close friendships. Almost all are much younger than I.
As somebody who's very open and emotional I find it can be intimidating for a female friend to be told face-to-face how much you care about them, even when those feelings are platonic and not romantic. The blogging world is more comfortable as we have an electronic wall separating us which seems to lend an air of comfort.
I'm getting a bit off track here, but what I'm getting at is I believe intense emotional feelings can be shared with both girlfriends or girl-friends. The difference being, I agree, one involves physical intimacy (ie, sex). I make that distinction because it could be said in either case that physical intimacy can be a hug, snuggle or cuddle. I know friends who sleep together (clothed) where sex is not a factor.
Relationships can be almost wonderful in their complication, can't they?
I enjoyed this post.
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